James 1:19

We often want to be treated in a certain way, without giving thought to how we act regarding others. It’s human nature.

James 1:19 tells us we need to be quick to listen, not just hear. Be attentive to whomever it is engaging with you. Try to understand. Practice empathy. It is so easy to listen with an intent to respond but listening to what someone has to say, while trying to appreciate the content, context and body language can help to enhance communication and make it that much more productive.

Be slow to speak. We all remember being told to think before we speak. However, I don’t think the idea comes from merely collating your words nicely before opening your mouth. I think it is a follow-on from being quick to listen. Quietly assessing communication received, before speaking, is what is meant here, I feel.

When one is attentive to communication received, and responds accordingly, communication is both complete and exchanged in Love, as opposed to pride.

Being slow to anger isn’t something I do well at all times. It’s one of those things that takes practice. Often forgotten, though, is that, to practice NOT being quick to anger, one has to be presented with situations where one would usually become angry! Similar to practicing patience.

James 1:19 seems to be a basic reminder of good manners and successful communication and I think it is a lesson we can all learn from.



Walk in the Faith of Your Purpose.

Remaining static, having discovered your purpose and, even, remaining static, having not discovered your purpose, is to live a stagnant life.

There is life and refreshment in working to discover your purpose, even when you fail or make mistakes. Getting it wrong isn’t defeat, it’s a lesson. Lessons are life and the day we stop wanting to learn is the day we start to die.

We all have a purpose. I encourage you to work towards yours and, when you have found it, walk in it. Put aside fear and take up Love and walk in the confidence we all were created with.


They Sing Tonight

I thought to write a blog on climate change but the simple fact is, as a species, we have mastered the art of blame, and as long as we aren’t to blame, it simply can’t be our problem to resolve. Even if it means we all march to a point of self-destruction.

One day, we’ll stop fighting to justify our destructive behaviour and come together to preserve what matters most. A life of Love.


The Growing Pains of Change

Loving yourself isn’t always as easy as you might think. It entails holding others accountable to the same standards you hold yourself to. At times, it means letting people go.

Keeping everyone else happy, to your own detriment, is to fall short of the standard you set for yourself. It is to waiver, as you live to standards not your own.

It’s OK to command a level of respect, no less than the respect you afford yourself. As you set sail across the sea of your purpose and destiny, you need to do this so you can have trusted shipmates aboard and not mutinous pirates.



Relationships remind me of deserts. They are vast and leave the travellers in awe. They can also be unforgiving and, if you enter into them, romantic and otherwise, with no direction, personally, they’ll kill you.

Dotted throughout the desert are oases of opportunity that allow relationships to grow. You can have an oasis of trust, you can have an oasis of Love. There are many oases throughout the desert of relationship that, when plunged into, with the right person, bring refreshment to the relationship and prevent stagnation in the fervent heat of life.

Plunging into these oases requires the overcoming of fear and the acceptance of vulnerability. You lay yourself and your intentions bare, pretty much skinny-dipping, through situations and circumstance. When you arise from these situations, bonds are closer or, sometimes, severed. For the bonds made stronger, your position in the other person’s life is a lot clearer, which makes you more secure.