The Love of Men: Ability vs. Opportunity

Very few will understand. There is distinct difference between not being able to Love and not being given an opportunity to demonstrate that I DO Love but cannot show it for reasons beyond my control.

Very few will understand what it’s like to have stifled Love or Love that has to be displayed within set parameters for a greater good. Very few will understand that there are real men among us who look on, from behind a glacier of no emotion, wishing they could have that one chance to Love.


London fire: Six dead after blaze engulfs tower block – BBC News

Man, my home needs a break. This is crazy. Prayers and condolences to the families of those that were lost.

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Two of My Brothers Doing Well for Themselves…

On the left, Marcus Browne, who plays for the West Ham U23s. He spent some time of this past season (2016/17) playing for Wigan Athletic and my heart was in my mouth when he missed THAT chance against Manchester United in their F.A. Cup match.

Since the age of 8, I’ve watched Marcus grow and develop. From running around on Greenfields park, in the rain, to where he is now. He is a tireless worker and dedicated to his craft. I find his story of “Work for what you want” to be one of the most inspiring I’ve ever come across. I’m proud to call him my brother, and not just due to his success. I’m proud because his journey has epitomised everything I believe to be true. He is loving, kind, giving and dedicated to taking himself to the next level.

On the right, Asher Robinson (TateMae). Asher is a DJ and a representative of the Yours Mine Ours (YMO) event brand. I’m yet to make an event that he plays at, due to living in another country but it’s a privilege to have been able to follow his story from the beginning.

I still remember laughing as Asher attempted mixing tunes together, dropping clangers as a child would dropping pots and pans while learning to navigate a kitchen. Fast forward a year or two and I shared a SoundCloud mix with several friends who were taken by his creativity and clean-cut transitions. Like Marcus, Asher is another testament to hard work paying off. I’ve watched his name go from the bottom of flyers, often mentioned at the end, to headlining at large events. Again, it’s a proud moment to say, “That’s my brother”!



The Annunciation

There are very few things worse than having Love torn from you. Regardless of blame and reason, it leaves you in a place where you question the very existence of Love. Much less the ability to display it.

I overcame this period in my life by accepting responsibility for my wrongdoings and how I’d hurt others. Then I went through a process of self-forgiveness before opening a door for others to forgive me.

During the period of asking others to forgive me, I went through a raft of emotions as some forgave and others blasted me with the grudge and hate they still held against me. It wasn’t pretty and the period brought me to a next phase that I am still dealing with. I am fearful of letting down those that I Love.